"I Don't Know How She Does It" List

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Whether you are a woman or mom working full-time outside the home or not, many scenes from the book (and now movie) "I Don’t Know How She Does It" can ring true. There are days where I wonder how some of us ladies make it all work. We'd like to pull together a list of blog posts, tips, lists, j... More »

BOOK: I Don't Know How She Does It: The Life of Kate Reddy, Working Mother

Allison Pearson's debut novel, I Don't Know How She Does It, is a rare and beautiful hybrid: a devastatingly funny novel that's also a compelling fictional world. You want to climb inside this book and inhabit it. However...

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Give yourself some good laughs as this working mom of two and primary breadwinner tries to make it all work. Smart, witty, funny.

Rebecca: I would clarify: whatever Kate does, do the opposite!

Adrienne: I didn't realize this was a book. I'll have to check that out.

BOOK: Me, Myself & Inc.

DeMao has been raising a small business and 3 daughters for over 25 years. Her secret is not finding balance;it’s about creating synergy among all life aspects: ME:family, friends,community you; MYSELF:individualyou; INC: business, professional you”

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Suggested by sldunlimited:

DeMao says that people feel pulled in so many directions because “they are trying to balance what cannot be divided by two!” Me, Myself & Inc informs readers how to create synergy between all areas of their lives and find success in doing so.

SkinnyScoop Team: This sounds like a great book! Will definitely need to check it out

BOOK: How to Break a Glass Ceiling Without a Hammer

This book gives tons of tips to women on How to Break the Glass Ceiling Without a Hammer and also helps woman to use these tips both in their professional and personal life.

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Suggested by Sonja Fisher:

This book has great tips for woman! My chapter 24 - gives 10 tips for them to succeed in Corporate America.

TIP: Remember You

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Suggested by Haleh Rabizadeh Resnick:

Never Never put yourself last. You have to have a sense of yourself and your well being. Otherwise, you may be doing it all and be miserable inside OR you may be doing it all and just be doing too much- recipe for collapsing and dropping the ball.

SkinnyScoop Team: This is a great tip that many of us often forget.

Cris: The title of the tip say it all!

TIP: Carry Yourself With Elegance | Cris Simone

~Experience the Art of Living Well~

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Suggested by Cris Simone:

Always carry yourself with elegance, style and grace no matter how hectic life becomes. Dress well, wear makeup, and style your hair. It simply feels good when you look good.

Jackie: I like this tip! It is one that I often forget when I am rushing to try to get to work on time.

Cris: This is what gets me through those tough days at the office. Helps me to feel like I'm gliding, not shuffling, through the day.

Eden Godsoe: You mean no more make-up-less faces and wet ponytails for work?! Just kidding - I really should take an extra 10-15 minutes in the am to pull myself together!

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TIP: Appreciative Living

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Suggested by Denise Ercolino Yarrison:

Keep a light heart & a positive spirit thru attentiveness to what's working well in your day, what you appreciate in any moment; not what's going wrong, or what we didn't get done. The latter are sure energy drainers! Read more on my blog..

Jackie: I will definitely be checking out your blog..and I need to work on staying light hearted and positive, because I do drain myself with "should have done this" thoughts.

Denise Ercolino: Hi Jackie! I catch myself saying "I should've" or "I shouldn't have" often! It helps me to switch to more empowering language like "I will / won't do that" or "I choose to / choose not to...".

Cris: With all that is happening in the world around us, we must live with gratitude and appreciation.

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TIP: Get a Hobby

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Whether it's crafting, cooking, photography or something else, having a hobby and making time for it is so important to today's busy woman. It is truly "you" time.

Jackie: I agree. When it is a hobby that you love and truly are interested in, despite how busy life gets, there always seems to be some time where you can "work" on this hobby.

Eden Godsoe: Quite honestly, I feel like I need to get a hobby or get back into some of the things I used to be passionate about & spend "me" time doing. It's tough when you work long hours & have young children, but I do think every woman should have at least one hobby that is truly her own.

Adrienne: finding time for me is so important. I love my yoga classes. It's a total escape!

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TIP: Priorities

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Suggested by Amanda Pekoe:

Your partner is important to you, but so is your career. Make a "date" once each week to spend time with your spouse, even if it means bringing him or her to a work event.

SkinnyScoop Team: Date nights are a definite must!

TIP: Make Goals | Fabulous&MoneySavvy

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Suggested by Bahiyah Shabazz:

Instead of overwhelming yourself, list 3-5 feasible goals each day that are measurable for progress. Revisit your goals in the morning and midday for any adjustments. >I like to highlight according to activities<

Jackie: I am definitely going to have to work on this one. I often feel like a spaz if I have too much on my plate and I tend to overwhelm myself. I will have to start making daily goals. Thanks for sharing :)

TIP: Stay Organized

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Suggested by Sapphire Bookkeeping:

The best advice I can give is to keep an organized day planner. It doesn't matter if it electronic, a calendar on the wall or a paper calendar in your purse. Being able to write things down will help your mind remember them and get them done.

Jackie: I have a paper day planner, but I need to get better at leaving more detailed to-dos and using it more often.

TIP: The Twisted Pencil

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Tip: plan in advance - it usually works just fine when you're planning a week ahead; write down the schedules of every family member and organize yours' around those. Helps to organize your day while still being there for a family.

SkinnyScoop Team: Great tip! Scheduling is very important, and remembering to do so a week before allows for easy time managing.

Erika: Exactly! And it also helps not to miss important occasions like son's football game or a family gathering.

TIP: Get Your Groceries deliverered

Order online at your convenience and chose a delivery slot that suits your day!

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Suggested by Margot Bloom:

We waste so much time on grocery shopping - drive to Store put items in cart take items out of cart at checkout replace items in cart pack items into car drive home unpack car put away Add in traffic and small children for maximum wasted hours!

Jackie: I also make the mistake of not making a checklist or forgetting it and therefore I spend forever going down each isle seeing what I want/need. Added extra time is going grocery shopping hungry!

SkinnyScoop Team: Great idea, I will have to see if Trader Joe's does this..?

Cris: Love this tip. I am desperately waiting for Whole Foods to do this!

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TIP: Cook Once/Eat Twice

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Suggested by Denise Dougherty:

Cook enough for two meals. This will save you a tremendous amount of time!

Jackie: I have been seriously thinking about this because I wind up buying lunch when I could be cooking a larger dinner and eating leftovers for lunch. Will have to do this.

Erin: great idea to maximize benefits from your cooking time!

TIP: Take A Mental Health Day | Cris Simone

~Experience the Art of Living Well~

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Suggested by Cris Simone:

Take a mental health day once a month to either do absolutely nothing, or only what you want to do. It gives you an opportunity to come back to center and refocus, especially when life is at its craziest.

SkinnyScoop Team: This is a great tip! Life can get so hectic and even on days off I wind up being busy doing errands I can't get done during work days.

Cris: For September, I took a mental health day with my mom at the Peninsula Hotel's afternoon tea time. We felt like ladies of leisure.

Eden Godsoe: Such a good tip. Must remember to book my mental health day soon!

Cris: This month, my mental health day will be a spa day at Joanna Vargas Salon. Her facials always take years off my appearance!

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TIP: Have A "Me" Day | Fabulous&MoneySavvy

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Suggested by Bahiyah Shabazz:

Women take care of others before their personal needs. It's important to incorporate a "me" day for tranquility. Remember you can't take of everyone else unless you take care of yourself.

TIP: Don't beat yourself up over the small things

Suggested by Denise Dougherty:

Always remember - you can't be 100% on your game 100% of the time. Try your best, and learn from your mistakes.

TIP: How I (try to) Do It All

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Suggested by Amanda Armstrong:

As a mother of 2 and first time entrepreneur, I find that spending 15 minutes or less in the evening and morning tying up loose ends (dishes to emails) helps me prepare for the next day - ready to (try) to do it all again!

Jackie: Doing the dishes and laundry in the morning does save a lot of time for doing other errands later in the day...it's just the waking up a few minutes earlier to do it that I need to work on!

TIP: ABC'S = Always Be Carrying Something

Suggested by Lisa:

Follow the ABC'S. "Always Be Carrying Something." Baby on one hip, laptop in the other. Going upstairs? Bring the laundry with you. Going to work? Bring your mail, iphone, prescription refills and calendar.

TIP: Best Quote to Live By in a Busy Life

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Suggested by Denise Dougherty:

"I can, and will, do everything I want to...just not all at one time. Patience!"

SkinnyScoop Team: Great quote!

TIP: Finding Balance

Suggested by Candi Wingate:

Busy moms have a lot in common with circus performers. We have to juggle many balls in the air - and we worry that it's all going to come crashing down at any moment! Additionally, we strive to perfect our balancing act, some days feeling more surefo...

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Denise Ercolino Yarrison added:

 Keep a light heart & a positive spirit thru attentiveness to what's working well in your day, what you appreciate in any moment; not what's going wrong, or what we didn't get done. The latter are sure energy drainers! Read more on my blog..

TIP: Appreciative Living

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Sonja Fisher added:

 This book has great tips for woman! My chapter 24 - gives 10 tips for them to succeed in Corporate America.

BOOK: How to Break a Glass Ceiling Without a Hammer

prowoman.net

This book gives tons of tips to women on How to Break the Glass Ceiling Without a Hammer and also helps woman to use these tips both in their professional and personal life.

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Cena Block added:

 Free audio tips and e-book download to help you get started!

WEBSITE: Sane Spaces Get Organized To Keep Your Family Sane

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Organizing Tips and weekly projects you can do yourself to get your family's spaces, systems, and habits in order!

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Kathy Mcdonald added:

 This blog has lots of great work/life balance tips. This post suggests a tool for turning work off at the end of the day.

BLOG POST: End of the Work Day Ritual

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How to turn work off at the end of the day

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 DeMao says that people feel pulled in so many directions because “they are trying to balance what cannot be divided by two!” Me, Myself & Inc informs readers how to create synergy between all areas of their lives and find success in doing so.

BOOK: Me, Myself & Inc.

memyselfandinc.com

DeMao has been raising a small business and 3 daughters for over 25 years. Her secret is not finding balance;it’s about creating synergy among all life aspects: ME:family, friends,community you; MYSELF:individualyou; INC: business, professional you”

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Erika Walker added:

 Tip: plan in advance - it usually works just fine when you're planning a week ahead; write down the schedules of every family member and organize yours' around those. Helps to organize your day while still being there for a family.

TIP: The Twisted Pencil

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Cheryl TheMentor Pullins added:

 The really cool feature with this application is that it can remind you to "get the milk." This nifty tool will suggest nearby places for you to take care of some of the tasks on your list.

APP: Remember the Milk!

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This is an application that can help you to manage tasks, easily and quickly. You can view your tasks on your phone, computer and tablet. You can also print your reminders.

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Carla Sameth added:

 Single Mom's perspective: It's ok if she doesn't do it all

BLOG POST: Single Moms of South Pas: The Myth of Time Management

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In honor of Labor day, Carla Sameth explores the myths of working smarter when there aren’t enough hours in the day.

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Candi Wingate added:

 Busy moms have a lot in common with circus performers. We have to juggle many balls in the air - and we worry that it's all going to come crashing down at any moment! Additionally, we strive to perfect our balancing act, some days feeling more surefo...

TIP: Finding Balance

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Denise Dougherty added:

 "I can, and will, do everything I want to...just not all at one time. Patience!"

TIP: Best Quote to Live By in a Busy Life

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Denise Dougherty added:

 Cook enough for two meals. This will save you a tremendous amount of time!

TIP: Cook Once/Eat Twice

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Denise Dougherty added:

 Always remember - you can't be 100% on your game 100% of the time. Try your best, and learn from your mistakes.

TIP: Don't beat yourself up over the small things

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Lisa added:

 Follow the ABC'S. "Always Be Carrying Something." Baby on one hip, laptop in the other. Going upstairs? Bring the laundry with you. Going to work? Bring your mail, iphone, prescription refills and calendar.

TIP: ABC'S = Always Be Carrying Something

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Georgette Pascale added:

 My tips are worthy because I have decoded the work-life balance into just three easy building blocks. They work for me and I believe they will at the very least provide starting points to others seeking the same. Enjoy your life and your work too!

BLOG POST: Success for Women | "Decoding Work-Life Balance" by Georgette Pascale

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Amanda Armstrong added:

 As a mother of 2 and first time entrepreneur, I find that spending 15 minutes or less in the evening and morning tying up loose ends (dishes to emails) helps me prepare for the next day - ready to (try) to do it all again!

TIP: How I (try to) Do It All

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Diane Sullivan added:

 This list of tips is just a few ideas that you can use to free up your weekends. Everyone needs time to recharge for the next week.

BLOG: ASK AN ORGANIZER

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Advice and Encouragement To Simplify Your Life

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Margot Bloom added:

 We waste so much time on grocery shopping - drive to Store put items in cart take items out of cart at checkout replace items in cart pack items into car drive home unpack car put away Add in traffic and small children for maximum wasted hours!

TIP: Get Your Groceries deliverered

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Order online at your convenience and chose a delivery slot that suits your day!

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Cris Simone added:

 Always carry yourself with elegance, style and grace no matter how hectic life becomes. Dress well, wear makeup, and style your hair. It simply feels good when you look good.

TIP: Carry Yourself With Elegance | Cris Simone

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~Experience the Art of Living Well~

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Cris Simone added:

 Take a mental health day once a month to either do absolutely nothing, or only what you want to do. It gives you an opportunity to come back to center and refocus, especially when life is at its craziest.

TIP: Take A Mental Health Day | Cris Simone

crissimone.com

~Experience the Art of Living Well~

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Amanda Pekoe added:

 Your partner is important to you, but so is your career. Make a "date" once each week to spend time with your spouse, even if it means bringing him or her to a work event.

TIP: Priorities

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Bahiyah Shabazz added:

 Women take care of others before their personal needs. It's important to incorporate a "me" day for tranquility. Remember you can't take of everyone else unless you take care of yourself.

TIP: Have A "Me" Day | Fabulous&MoneySavvy

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Bahiyah Shabazz added:

 Instead of overwhelming yourself, list 3-5 feasible goals each day that are measurable for progress. Revisit your goals in the morning and midday for any adjustments. >I like to highlight according to activities<

TIP: Make Goals | Fabulous&MoneySavvy

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Growth.Money.Success.

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Bahiyah Shabazz added:

 This list gives you the tools for personal growth and financial empowerment.

Fabulous&MoneySavvy

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Kristl Story added:

 A refreshing approach to house cleaning! Who wouldn't love to avoid Saturday cleaning day?

BLOG POST: Clean Faster with a House Cleaning Schedule | The Budget Diet

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A house cleaning schedule will let you clean faster and in less time. Dedicate just 15 minutes a day to house cleaning!

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Kristl Story added:

 10 simple changes you can make to simplify and organize your life! Challenge yourself to make 1 change each week!

BLOG POST: Resolution - Get Organized - Save Time and Money | The Budget Diet

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Resolution - Organize your life in 10 short days, so you can save both time and money! Learn to plan ahead, create idea files, manage kids schedules and more!

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 If you enjoy sleeping as much as I do- this new smart-fabric is for YOU! It's made with a high-tech process that neutralizes the stress that our bodies produce. Goodnighties like no other, moisture-wicks and is anti-microbial! It's all in the fabric!

PRODUCT: A Simple Solution for Better Sleep!

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csankar added:

 Great appointment setting and time management program. Great for moms on the go!

APP: Tungle.com

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Keeps me on time all of the time

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Kristl Story added:

 It's a reminder of how important it is to schedule your day, make lists and actually get things done!

BLOG POST: Time Management for Moms - Time Saving Tips | The Budget Diet

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Time management for moms will help you tackle your to do list with time saving tips to incorporate in your busy lifestyle.

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Darla Arni added:

 Let go of multi-tasking and regain your sanity!

BLOG: Full Plate no fork

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Too much to do and not enough me to handle it all!

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justbefriends added:

 Will provide inspiration to see a different perspective!

WEBSITE: Having It All- What Does That Even Mean?

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What is this new level of achievement we have created for ourselves? What does it actually mean? Why we should say NO!

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Maree Jones added:

 This is list-worthy because all busy mamas want to cut corners without cutting quality. I show you how to do it!

BLOG POST: Ten Time-Saving Tips for Busy Moms

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As a full-time workin'-woman, mother to a very large toddler, and wife to a husband that likes me barefoot and cookin' in the kitchen, it is no wonder that sometimes I feel a little ragged at the ...

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Maree Jones added:

 Definitely list-worthy because we working mothers, and ladies that are "doing it all" have to see the humor in everyday situations. If not, we'll all go crazy. From using your kids toys for other uses to cutting the legs off pantyhose...

FOR FUN: Singing the Working Mom Blues

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You realize you're a working mother when... (*note, this post is much funnier if you try to read it like Jeff Foxworthy) 1. The sharpener you use on your eyeliner and lipliner has Mater on it...

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Haleh Rabizadeh Resnick added:

 Never Never put yourself last. You have to have a sense of yourself and your well being. Otherwise, you may be doing it all and be miserable inside OR you may be doing it all and just be doing too much- recipe for collapsing and dropping the ball.

TIP: Remember You

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Sapphire Bookkeeping added:

 The best advice I can give is to keep an organized day planner. It doesn't matter if it electronic, a calendar on the wall or a paper calendar in your purse. Being able to write things down will help your mind remember them and get them done.

TIP: Stay Organized

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Sally Shields added:

 The lovely Jackie Sandoval tells me tip #1 is a work in progress!!!!

BLOG POST: Are You a Mom and Trying to Do it All?

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Tara McKee Cousineau added:

 For those of us who have a creative, entrepreneurial streak and want to figure out how to get a new idea or venture going take the survey, called Smart Girls Mirror, at Smart Girls Way. I found it a really a terrific tool for self-reflection!

WEBSITE: Smart Girls Way

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Jackie added:

 I came across this article on CNN with some great advice from top business women on how to "do it all" - having a family, dealing with cancer, and still having a powerful career. Stories from COO of Facebook and more. I recommend checking it out.

ARTICLE: Powerful women: How they do it all

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"How do they manage to do it all?" That's still the No. 1 question asked of high-achieving women.

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Krista added:

 Great office pieces at steep discounts in honor of the movie out 9/16 - what a fun event!

HauteLook - 'I Don't Know How She Does It' Executive Style List

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Erin added:

 News, insight and tips on parenting, workplace issues, commuting, caregiving and other issues busy readers with families face. Plus, share and compare your own work-and-family experiences and to seek advice and recommendations.

WEBSITE: The Juggle

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WSJ.com on choices and tradeoffs people make as they juggle work and family.

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Erin added:

 Tips for a Slower-Paced Life. Getting more done in less time by just doing less, but more important, things. All great.

BLOG POST: How Not to Hurry | Zen Habits

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“Nature does not hurry, yet everything is accomplished.” Is it possible to never hurry, but to get everything done? It seems contradictory to our modern world, where everything is a rush.

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